Archive for the 'Learning' Category
The Basics of Reality and Rapport
November 4th, 2008In my last article, A Look in the Mirror - Evaluating Your Own Confidence, I discussed a technique that you can use to not only evaluate your confidence, but also begin to learn to observe non-verbal communication. One reader asked in a comment if the someone who is being “unreasonable or hostile” might be reflecting [...]
Breaking The Cycle of Repeated Mistakes
September 18th, 2008I’m pretty sure that most of you conscious of at least one habit that you have developed that gets repeated over and over again in the same situations. Some of these may be positive habits, like brushing your teeth, yet others may be bad like smoking. On top of these habits that you are aware [...]
How to Let it All Go and Be Happy
August 23rd, 2008The other day I was having a conversation with a friend of mine who had observed that when when we are in stressful situations, I appear to be completely unaffected. He didn’t believe that he was capable of doing this and explained to me how the stress keeps building up on him to the point [...]
What it Means to be Self-Sufficient
August 12th, 2008Just three years ago, when I was experiencing the hardships of divorce, I found myself scouring the Internet looking for a secret to save my marriage. Everywhere I went I read that you have to be "Self-Sufficient" and completely un-needy. At the time this seemed like a ridiculous impossibility. After all, wasn’t the point of [...]
Coping With Life’s Ups and Downs by Being Present
August 3rd, 2008Perhaps you spend much of your time thinking about what will happen in the future, or maybe what has happened in the past. You may find it hard to be excited or happy because your worries constantly occupy your mind. If you find yourself wondering if you can be happy or if you can find [...]
Changing Memories with NLP and Self-Hypnosis
August 1st, 2008The Realization
A few days ago, I was lying in bed, relaxing, and trying to fall asleep, playing around with self-hypnosis. Earlier that day, I had had a conversation with a few members of my family about my childhood and an imaginary friend that I had long since forgotten about. So as I lay there going [...]
A Guide to Finding Your Dream Mate
July 23rd, 2008Nearly three years ago, I found myself recently divorced, alone, and wanting to start dating again. Because of my social anxieties, I had very little experience meeting women. This period of time, while difficult for me, eventually became the catalyst for much of the learning and change I have made since. In the time that [...]
The Art of Building Relationships – Part 3 – Basic Rapport Building
July 18th, 2008In the parts one and two I introduced the concepts of rapport and congruency. Today I will introduce you to the basic skills you will need to improve in order to build stronger rapport easily. You will learn what you must pay attention to as well as how body language, speech patterns, and tone of [...]
The Art of Building Relationships – Part 2 – Congruency
July 10th, 2008In the first part of the series, I took time to explain what rapport was, and how you will be able to build better relationships with it. In this part more on the inverse, and how body language, and incongruence can lead to bad or untrusting relationships. Congruency can almost be said to be a [...]
The Art of Building Relationships - Part 1 - What is Rapport?
July 10th, 2008Whether you’re here because you want to learn to get dates, conquer your social anxiety, or just because you want to learn to be more socially inclined, at some point you will need to know how to build relationships. Maybe the first thought that pops into your head when you read the word “Relationship” is [...]
