Comments for Socially Distressed http://www.sociallydistressed.com Your source for information about social anxieties and phobias Sun, 23 Nov 2008 13:30:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 Comment on A Look in the Mirror - Evaluating Your Own Confidence by | Socially Distressed http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/11/a-look-in-the-mirror-evaluating-your-own-confidence/#comment-87 | Socially Distressed Tue, 04 Nov 2008 19:25:30 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/11/a-look-in-the-mirror-evaluating-your-own-confidence/#comment-87 [...] my last article, A Look in the Mirror - Evaluating Your Own Confidence, I discussed a technique that you can use to not only evaluate your confidence, but also begin to [...] [...] my last article, A Look in the Mirror - Evaluating Your Own Confidence, I discussed a technique that you can use to not only evaluate your confidence, but also begin to [...]

]]> Comment on A Look in the Mirror - Evaluating Your Own Confidence by Andy http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/11/a-look-in-the-mirror-evaluating-your-own-confidence/#comment-86 Andy Tue, 04 Nov 2008 17:22:08 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/11/a-look-in-the-mirror-evaluating-your-own-confidence/#comment-86 I really can't say whether or not that's the case, but it could be. It could also be any one of a million other things. Perhaps they're having a bad day, month or year. Maybe they have a lot of built up hostility. Improving our own confidence, and in return our non-verbal communication, increases the chances that people will react to us favorably. At the same time being able to interpret the non-verbal communication of other people consciously gives us the ability to watch for cues that can help us to figure out how to be interpreted more favorably. For instance in some wacky case you might notice that if you smile, the person becomes more hostile, but if you join their reality and frown, they're more receptive to you. Really this subject is much too complicated to sum up in a comment, so I will write an article on it very soon. I really can’t say whether or not that’s the case, but it could be. It could also be any one of a million other things. Perhaps they’re having a bad day, month or year. Maybe they have a lot of built up hostility.

Improving our own confidence, and in return our non-verbal communication, increases the chances that people will react to us favorably. At the same time being able to interpret the non-verbal communication of other people consciously gives us the ability to watch for cues that can help us to figure out how to be interpreted more favorably. For instance in some wacky case you might notice that if you smile, the person becomes more hostile, but if you join their reality and frown, they’re more receptive to you.

Really this subject is much too complicated to sum up in a comment, so I will write an article on it very soon.

]]> Comment on A Look in the Mirror - Evaluating Your Own Confidence by Keli http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/11/a-look-in-the-mirror-evaluating-your-own-confidence/#comment-85 Keli Tue, 04 Nov 2008 16:18:45 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/11/a-look-in-the-mirror-evaluating-your-own-confidence/#comment-85 I am liking your theme of non-verbal communication. The communications we send out are just as important as those we witness. I often think of this when I find someone acting unreasonable or hostile...are they reflecting my non-verbal communications? And, can I help them by concentrating on more positive gestures? I am liking your theme of non-verbal communication. The communications we send out are just as important as those we witness. I often think of this when I find someone acting unreasonable or hostile…are they reflecting my non-verbal communications? And, can I help them by concentrating on more positive gestures?

]]> Comment on A Trip To The Coffee Shop by Andy http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/10/a-trip-to-the-coffee-shop/#comment-84 Andy Thu, 30 Oct 2008 17:55:10 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/10/a-trip-to-the-coffee-shop/#comment-84 Actually I think I might have been a little bit misleading. You can't actually "Control" your own non-verbal communication, yet you can be aware of it to some extent. What you can learn to do is control your thoughts and state which lead to certain non-verbal communications. My control was in my focus on the state I wanted to be in. Some of that was through internal dialogue and some internal visualization. In the end it always comes down to BEING what you want to represent non-verbally. Actually I think I might have been a little bit misleading. You can’t actually “Control” your own non-verbal communication, yet you can be aware of it to some extent. What you can learn to do is control your thoughts and state which lead to certain non-verbal communications. My control was in my focus on the state I wanted to be in. Some of that was through internal dialogue and some internal visualization. In the end it always comes down to BEING what you want to represent non-verbally.

]]> Comment on A Trip To The Coffee Shop by Keli http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/10/a-trip-to-the-coffee-shop/#comment-83 Keli Thu, 30 Oct 2008 17:42:32 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/10/a-trip-to-the-coffee-shop/#comment-83 I just love the idea of having a completely non-verbal conversation while being totally aware that I am doing it! Thanks for that inspiration, I will be looking for the next opportunity to practise that. I just love the idea of having a completely non-verbal conversation while being totally aware that I am doing it! Thanks for that inspiration, I will be looking for the next opportunity to practise that.

]]> Comment on What Women Want in a Man by gcgal http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/10/what-women-want-in-a-man/#comment-82 gcgal Tue, 21 Oct 2008 17:46:55 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/10/what-women-want-in-a-man/#comment-82 I have to say I agree with your post, women are definitely attracted to confidence and you've explained this well! gcgals last blog post..<a href="http://wendishness.blogspot.com/2008/10/fun-monday-day-in-life.html" rel="nofollow">Fun Monday - a day in the life</a> I have to say I agree with your post, women are definitely attracted to confidence and you’ve explained this well!

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]]> Comment on What Women Want in a Man by Andy http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/10/what-women-want-in-a-man/#comment-81 Andy Tue, 14 Oct 2008 20:19:06 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/10/what-women-want-in-a-man/#comment-81 Keli, I'm glad to hear that you managed to find your way though that! So many don't. Keli,

I’m glad to hear that you managed to find your way though that! So many don’t.

]]> Comment on What Women Want in a Man by Keli http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/10/what-women-want-in-a-man/#comment-80 Keli Tue, 14 Oct 2008 20:06:05 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/10/what-women-want-in-a-man/#comment-80 I think you have hit the proverbial nail on it's proverbial noggin! I was asshole blindness impaired through my teens and early 20's...thank goodness I learned how to look past that "confidence" and found a heck of a good guy to spend my life with! I think you have hit the proverbial nail on it’s proverbial noggin!
I was asshole blindness impaired through my teens and early 20’s…thank goodness I learned how to look past that “confidence” and found a heck of a good guy to spend my life with!

]]> Comment on What Women Want in a Man by Adam http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/10/what-women-want-in-a-man/#comment-79 Adam Tue, 14 Oct 2008 19:50:22 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/10/what-women-want-in-a-man/#comment-79 Yes, confidence is certainly almost an aphrodisiac in the early stages of a relationship. Adams last blog post..<a href="http://pixelheadonline.com/blog/index.php/2008/10/14/video-seo/" rel="nofollow">SEO Tip: Video Optimization</a> Yes, confidence is certainly almost an aphrodisiac in the early stages of a relationship.

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]]> Comment on Coping With Life’s Ups and Downs by Being Present by Patrick http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/coping-with-lifes-ups-and-downs-by-being-present/#comment-77 Patrick Sun, 14 Sep 2008 18:22:23 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/coping-with-lifes-ups-and-downs-by-being-present/#comment-77 This is essentially the main idea in the book the Peaceful Warrior. This is essentially the main idea in the book the Peaceful Warrior.

]]> Comment on Inner Dialog - The Craziness in Us All by When the Depression Rolls By - Recognition and Coping | Socially Distressed http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/05/inner-dialog-craziness-in-us-all/#comment-74 When the Depression Rolls By - Recognition and Coping | Socially Distressed Thu, 04 Sep 2008 14:10:54 +0000 http://sociallydistressed.andrewalmquist.com/2008/05/inner-dialog-the-craziness-in-us-all/#comment-74 [...] of analyzing your own reasoning.  In order to do this, you need to learn to listen to  your inner dialog. Once you have become versed in paying attention to your thought, you will be able to notice [...] [...] of analyzing your own reasoning.  In order to do this, you need to learn to listen to  your inner dialog. Once you have become versed in paying attention to your thought, you will be able to notice [...]

]]> Comment on Changing Memories with NLP and Self-Hypnosis by Andy http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/changing-memories-with-nlp-and-self-hypnosis/#comment-73 Andy Sun, 31 Aug 2008 05:30:35 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/changing-memories-with-nlp-and-self-hypnosis/#comment-73 Thank you for your support Bridget! Thank you for your support Bridget!

]]> Comment on Changing Memories with NLP and Self-Hypnosis by Bridget http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/changing-memories-with-nlp-and-self-hypnosis/#comment-72 Bridget Sat, 30 Aug 2008 13:49:36 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/changing-memories-with-nlp-and-self-hypnosis/#comment-72 I disagree that Andy has done anything dangerous. The old memories and any learnings to be had from them are still there, but he's laid down a parallel track of memories that perhaps serve his life better. He then has the choice to form a future based on the old memories that made him less resourceful in certain situations, or to go forward from the new memories that help him access more and better resources. His mind will tend to choose the resourceful path as better for the survival of the whole Andy. Well done, Andy! You go! I disagree that Andy has done anything dangerous. The old memories and any learnings to be had from them are still there, but he’s laid down a parallel track of memories that perhaps serve his life better. He then has the choice to form a future based on the old memories that made him less resourceful in certain situations, or to go forward from the new memories that help him access more and better resources. His mind will tend to choose the resourceful path as better for the survival of the whole Andy.

Well done, Andy! You go!

]]> Comment on Exercise to Boost Your Confidence by Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy Melbourne http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/exercise-to-boost-your-confidence/#comment-71 Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy Melbourne Sat, 30 Aug 2008 13:24:52 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/exercise-to-boost-your-confidence/#comment-71 Great post, thanks! It is something to think about Great post, thanks! It is something to think about

]]> Comment on Quitting Smoking as a Technique to Improve your Self Confidence by Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy Melbourne http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/06/quitting-smoking-as-technique-to/#comment-70 Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy Melbourne Sat, 30 Aug 2008 13:24:34 +0000 http://sociallydistressed.andrewalmquist.com/2008/06/quitting-smoking-as-a-technique-to-improve-your-self-confidence/#comment-70 Thanks for the post, something to ponder on Thanks for the post, something to ponder on

]]> Comment on Changing Memories with NLP and Self-Hypnosis by Hypnosis Melbourne http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/changing-memories-with-nlp-and-self-hypnosis/#comment-69 Hypnosis Melbourne Sat, 30 Aug 2008 06:14:25 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/changing-memories-with-nlp-and-self-hypnosis/#comment-69 Thankyou! I find it fascinating how people look at things. Thankyou! I find it fascinating how people look at things.

]]> Comment on Continuing the Quest to Quit Smoking by Finally! Be free from smoking » Continuing the Quest to Quit Smoking http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/continuing-the-quest-to-quit-smoking/#comment-59 Finally! Be free from smoking » Continuing the Quest to Quit Smoking Wed, 20 Aug 2008 17:29:15 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/continuing-the-quest-to-quit-smoking/#comment-59 [...] QJoe wrote an interesting post today onHere’s a quick excerptIt has been nearly 2 months since I challenged myself to quit smoking. While I can’t say that I’m 100% smoke free that this point, I can say that I have made quite a bit of progress and still remain committed to quitting. … [...] [...] QJoe wrote an interesting post today onHere’s a quick excerptIt has been nearly 2 months since I challenged myself to quit smoking. While I can’t say that I’m 100% smoke free that this point, I can say that I have made quite a bit of progress and still remain committed to quitting. … [...]

]]> Comment on Changing Memories with NLP and Self-Hypnosis by Cindywa888 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/changing-memories-with-nlp-and-self-hypnosis/#comment-53 Cindywa888 Mon, 18 Aug 2008 02:43:32 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/changing-memories-with-nlp-and-self-hypnosis/#comment-53 I don't think altering memories is always a bad thing. What if these memories are causing neurotic or psychotic behaviors? Is that really part of a person's identity? What about people who have been seriously tramatized beyond the point of being able to change how they feel about these memories? How can the memories serve in any helpful capacity? Can it really help someone who was molested by their parent as a child to remember such a thing and consider the memory as something that has made them who they are today? How could anyone ever say that this is a good memory that could serve them in any helpful way? I believe that in extreme circumstances, this extreme therapy would be greatly needed. Then we must also take into consideration the fact that our memories are not an accurate or true representation of what actually occured in the first place. They are merely our interpretation of events. Since we are all subjective beings, we can never take our own thoughts or memories as being totally accurate or concrete. A view point is just that. One way of looking at things. For every situation, there are thousands of view points that are all equally valid. It just depends on how you look at it. I don’t think altering memories is always a bad thing. What if these memories are causing neurotic or psychotic behaviors? Is that really part of a person’s identity? What about people who have been seriously tramatized beyond the point of being able to change how they feel about these memories? How can the memories serve in any helpful capacity? Can it really help someone who was molested by their parent as a child to remember such a thing and consider the memory as something that has made them who they are today? How could anyone ever say that this is a good memory that could serve them in any helpful way? I believe that in extreme circumstances, this extreme therapy would be greatly needed. Then we must also take into consideration the fact that our memories are not an accurate or true representation of what actually occured in the first place. They are merely our interpretation of events. Since we are all subjective beings, we can never take our own thoughts or memories as being totally accurate or concrete. A view point is just that. One way of looking at things. For every situation, there are thousands of view points that are all equally valid. It just depends on how you look at it.

]]> Comment on Exercise to Boost Your Confidence by Lasha http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/exercise-to-boost-your-confidence/#comment-49 Lasha Fri, 15 Aug 2008 12:11:51 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/exercise-to-boost-your-confidence/#comment-49 I recently started doing the 100 pushup challenge as well, and it's great! Claiming that I can do 100 pushups is pretty bold, and confidence boosting. Plus, if you keep this up, you'll start noticing some nice definition/development with your body. Also, if you like the results, start doing other small exercises too like situps and pullups (if you can), etc. :) Lashas last blog post..<a href="http://onefusedlife.com/2008/08/13/the-art-of-fanboyism/" rel="nofollow">The Art of Fanboyism</a> I recently started doing the 100 pushup challenge as well, and it’s great! Claiming that I can do 100 pushups is pretty bold, and confidence boosting. Plus, if you keep this up, you’ll start noticing some nice definition/development with your body. Also, if you like the results, start doing other small exercises too like situps and pullups (if you can), etc. :)
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]]> Comment on Embracing The Law of Attraction by Sam http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/embracing-the-law-of-attraction/#comment-48 Sam Wed, 13 Aug 2008 15:21:48 +0000 http://www.sociallydistressed.com/2008/08/embracing-the-law-of-attraction/#comment-48 Some says that the Law of Attraction is scam and nonsense. However it seems hard to me to reject the concept and principle of the law of attraction as I myself has experience many times with the law. If we have low self-esteem often we look down upon ourselves. We always think something bad about ourselves. This is not a good vibration. This is dangerous. What people with low self-esteem experience can be related with what they think. Count Duckula, I have to disagree with you.Law of attraction is broader that the law of belief. To belief is the first step in creating the thing that we want. It open the door of possibilities. How strong you are in defending and keeping your belief at its peak is where the law of attraction come into play. Strong belief produce high vibration and vice versa. This is only my opinion. :) Cheers, <a href="http://chuck-norris-exercise-equipment.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Chuck Norris Exercise Equipment</a> Some says that the Law of Attraction is scam and nonsense. However it seems hard to me to reject the concept and principle of the law of attraction as I myself has experience many times with the law.

If we have low self-esteem often we look down upon ourselves. We always think something bad about ourselves. This is not a good vibration. This is dangerous. What people with low self-esteem experience can be related with what they think.

Count Duckula, I have to disagree with you.Law of attraction is broader that the law of belief. To belief is the first step in creating the thing that we want. It open the door of possibilities. How strong you are in defending and keeping your belief at its peak is where the law of attraction come into play. Strong belief produce high vibration and vice versa.

This is only my opinion. :)

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